RHIANNON YARROW, NEW YORK USA
PR BEAUTY DIRECTOR
ON LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
Not only is Rhiannon one of the youngest women to have held such a title as a successful PR Director, but is one of the busiest people I know and the hardest to secure time with. Not only am I forever grateful to have her presence in my life as a close friend, but considering the amount of hours she works and at such an intensity - her infectiously positive and grateful energy is certainly an inspiration worthy of being noticed.
I hope our conversation discussing growing up and having a career in New York, along with relationships and being in love, can perhaps inspire someone in whatever way, whether it be a change in perspective, some enlightenment or maybe some kind of faith that you haven't been acquainted with before.
I FIND MORNING RITUALS AND HOW ONE CHOOSES TO START THE DAY BOTH IMPORTANT AND INTERESTING. WALK US THROUGH YOUR MORNINGS?
Sometimes it can start with something X-Rated :) or my mornings usually start off with a run. I’ve started setting my alarm at an obnoxiously early hour because I know myself well enough and I absolutely love to snooze it a hundred times. Usually if I’m out running by 6:45am or 7am then its looking pretty good. I know how important it is to not be so hard on yourself so if I can run 4 times a week then thats great, if I can do 5 times then thats amazing. I never beat myself up over it if I can’t and I usually always try for 30/45mins or an hour on the weekends. Then I come home, shower, and then go off to work.
IS IT IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO RUN AS MUCH AS YOU DO? DO YOU FEEL A SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCE IN YOUR BODY AND MENTALITY?
Absolutely. I just have more energy all throughout the day. I feel like on the days that I do run, I’m just more mentally fit and clear. Running isn’t just a physical thing for me, I’m a real extrovert where I constantly love to be around people all the time both socially and for the type of work that I do so running for me is nearly about the only time where I’m completely shut off and utterly all alone. I just use that time to think and reflect. So when I cut off running, yes there is certainly a physical result but for me its more a therapeutic tool to upkeep my mental health and harmony.
IT ALMOST SOUNDS LIKE YOU'VE FOUND A FORM OF MEDITATION THAT WORKS FOR YOU. I'VE KNOWN YOU FOR A LONG TIME NOW AND HAVE ALWAYS NOTICED YOU BALANCE YOUR LIFE, WHETHER ITS YOUR DIET OR YOUR INDULGENCES, SO HARMONIOUSLY. HOW DID YOU HARNESS SUCH A RELATIONSHIP?
I think when you eat healthy, you just feel better to a certain extent. I think I have a pretty healthy relationship with food and if I’m craving something or want to indulge I’ll just allow myself to eat it. I think when you are aware of your body and can listen to what it wants from you, whether you deem it good or bad, its the start of nuturing a good relationship.
I eat a lot of chocolate for instance and have accepted that thats something my body likes to have and will allow myself whereas in the past years I would have restricted myself every time the urge called for it and then ended up being so stressed out over it would have just gone and binged. Now its funny, I’ll have a small piece of chocolate or a large piece whatever that may be - theres no difference to me and my body and mind are now at peace and perfectly okay with that. But also, thats why its important for me to balance it out with eating healthily and running, so I don't torture myself over my indulgences. It took me awhile to get here, I think it takes hard work and patience to experiment and find what works for you. I mean I’m 30 now and I’m slowly finally feeling like I’ve found some harmony and balance with the whole thing.
COMING FROM YOUR EARLY TWENTIES TO WHERE YOU ARE NOW, DID LIVING IN THIS CITY CHALLENGE MUCH OF YOUR IDEA OF WHAT LIFE MEANT TO YOU AND WHAT IN YOUR LIFE WAS MOST IMPORTANT? I FEEL ALOT OF PEOPLE WHO COME FROM SOMEWHERE AS SMALL AND FAR REMOVED AS WHERE WE BOTH GREW UP, BEGIN TO PUT A CITY SUCH AS NEW YORK ON THIS IMAGINARY PEDESTAL. THEN YOU MOVE HERE AND YOU MEET THE PEOPLE PEOPLE THINK YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT MEETING AND GET INVITED TO LARGE SCALE EVENTS PEOPLE THINK YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT ATTENDING. AND YOU REALISE HOW MUCH THESE THINGS REALLY DONT MATTER AND HOW YOU REALLY HAVE LITTLE TO NO CARE FOR THESE THINGS AT ALL?
Absolutely, and I think thats why you’re always constantly reading or hearing the same story. Where someone working in finance or fashion or some other high-powered job suddenly quits life in the city and moves to a farm, or someplace upstate. You could read about a hundred of those stories a week. Everything is in such an extreme in New York and I think living here we experience so much life and so quickly. It gets super exhausting and then you suddenly wake up and realise that you can simplify life’s real pleasures down to just being with someone you love, maybe having a few babies and being by nature. You realise its not all that complicated and its actually quite simple. Its the simple things that really matter. The stark contrast that presents itself between living here and say going back home to Australia really solidifies that more for me personally. Exponentially you just learn to have greater appreciation.
SO THEN HOW DO YOU GET YOURSELF TO A GOOD MENTAL PLACE?
I mean for me its constantly learning and being passionate about something. Constantly admiring people rather than converting it to something poisonous like jealousy. Its being challenged and having goals, I mean its hard to even pinpoint ten things. I just find as you get older it just changes. Also to meet someone that makes you incredibly happy and completely be yourself. I’ve never liked looking at photos of myself and I don’t know if its being with my partner Dean who is a photographer but now I look at photos and find them beautiful. I don’t know whether its because he’s the one taking them and I'm looking at the man I'm completely in love with, or maybe its that I get to see myself through his eyes but I never used to feel like that about myself but now I see photos of myself so differently.
Its funny because you know its like we didn’t cut our hair, lose a whole lot of weight or look any different as we did last week, nothing has changed except for the fact that you met someone you admire who is making you a better version of yourself and happy. Then suddenly, you’re glowing, you’re skin is different. A girl is lying if she says she’s never thought about her weight or what she eats - I think its safe to say that now probably every single human being on this earth has thought about it at some point and has some sort of opinion fixated on their body and their relationship with food. But you know you haven’t lost a dramatic amount of weight but now you’re in love and you start dressing a little differently because suddenly your confidence is there and that sort of confidence and health can only come from a place where all those other factors of your life are suddenly now in harmony.
AND TO THOSE WHO HAVENT EXPERIENCED SOMETHING LIKE THAT OR CURRENTLY ARENT IN RELATIONSHIPS?
I think you can only meet someone or can attract someone when you are at a point where you’re comfortable allowing yourself to be yourself and you’ve really gotten yourself completely down. When you’ve put in the hard work and you’ve really worked on your flaws and you find you don’t necessarily need anyone or rely on someone to fulfil a void then you’re in a good place and funnily enough thats when that energy will attract someone you can want and not need.
Sometimes with people who are in really long term relationships, and from my personal experience, obtain this sort of comfort that they mask as a deeper love. They think its a connection they’re not ever going to get again. But connections are things we don’t really have any control over and some are purely chemical. I think theres a lot of things that drive passion but then theres also a lot to say about pure pheromones and chemical attraction. I think when we’re young, especially in our 20’s and 30’s its a beautiful thing to feel consumed by someone. I don’t think you should ever really need someone and I think anyone should be okay without someone but theres these sort of beautiful connections and people where you can’t replicate them or the feeling you have or they give you. I believe in love and I believe in romance.
There was this couple that used to go into my mum and dads newsstand and they were old but he would always buy the paper and his wife flowers every Sunday - he had been buying her flowers ever since they met in the Cold War. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Dementia and his wife grew really sick from age. Every Sunday he would still come into my dads newsstand but forget what he was there for. My dad would put the Sunday Mail and flowers in his hand and send him back home. Later she passed away and even though he was in good enough health, he passed away three days later. As much as life goes on and we think we don’t need anybody, I truly believe there are some human connections that go above and beyond what we’re capable of understanding.
WHAT DO YOU FIND BEAUTIFUL?
First and foremost its someones energy. Its first thing that hits me and how someone presents themselves. Humour is really attractive to me too. I read this article maybe two weeks ago and it had this beautiful quote that I’ve been thinking about every single day trying to figure out what it means to me. It’s by an architect from the 1400’s and it says:
“Beauty is the adjustment of all parts proportionately so one can not add or subtract or change without impairing the harmony of the whole”.
I can understand that everyone will take something different from it but I know its so cliche to say that beauty doesn’t only exist on the outside and we’ve all heard it a hundred times but it’s really true, it really doesn't. You can’t feel beautiful unless you really believe you are and you can’t see that unless you are happy or active or healthy and unless you do have that beautiful relationship with someone or your family and you’re in that good mental place.
I had this conversation with this cab driver, he was driving me to work and he pulled over and we ended up talking for over an hour and we had this really long conversation about how closely linked admiration is to love. And I do think its really beautiful to admire someone, I think its a beautiful quality also to be able to admire someone.
THEY SAY ADMIRATION IS WHAT KEEPS LOVE MOVING AND SPIRITUALLY YOU ONLY ADMIRE SOMETHING IN OTHERS THAT YOU ALREADY HAVE GROWING INSIDE OF YOU.
Yeah, and to love someone so much you want them to see the same good in you. I’ve learnt that I’ve always been someone who has wanted to be admired by my significant other. I guess admiration will always present itself as beauty to me and will never falter to lose its importance.